rush home after class cuz my guitarist not accessible to internet connection and printer.. Thank God class ended ard 530.. zapped off back to Pasir Ris... printed various keys... rushed off to the nearby photocopy shop to repricate the songsheets.. rushed off tO tampines.. yeah.. made it there by 650.
hmmm during the pre-cg prac.. once again.. silly things occured again.. Repent... Never would i take things lightly.. especially things of God... even if it is a prac.. ( just daunt upon me.. even sound check is like the real thing... wake up gal...) well.. my guitarist think G is too low for the praise... ended up once again.. overpowered by the 20+ pple.. (too used to projection at chest level... ~ consequence of singing alto since sec sch... ah... gotta expand my vocal range.. upwards... ) First was better... and i made a silly blunder (that i think not many noticed.. I condensesd the two verses into one... cuz i 4got the lyrics...) Yet.. ordinary my voice may be... God still came... Amazing... cuz its not me.. but He... - (was rather jittery that it will dip again.. but... nope.. though i was very tempted to go to the "operatic-worship-EYEs-wide-Open-amplifying sounding" sister to hush her... - steven has reminded her at least twice since last week... (and ya.. unlikely the first attempt.) And once again.. tonight... NEXT week.. if i witness EYES wide open Operatic move.. I will gently intervene....
5 languages of love... the main topic tonight... I thought my primary love language was "Words of Affirmation...".. checked my mail and did a quiz that alvin sent this morning.. interestingly, my primary love language is "Quality Time"! here's the details...
You selected Words of Affirmation: 6 times
You selected Quality Time: 8 times
You selected Giving/Receiving Gifts: 6 times
You selected Acts of Service: 4 times
You selected Physical Touch: 6 times
Quality Time
So what does that mean? Here is an explanation of the 5 love languages.
| Your Score | Love Language | Explanation |
| 6 out of 12 | Words of Affirmation | Verbal compliments, or words of appreciation are powerful communicators of love. They are best expressed in simple, straightforward statements of affirmation such as: "You look great in that suit", "Do you ever look nice in that dress." Every time someone does something good, give him/her a verbal compliment. The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well being of the one you love. It is a fact that when we receive affirming words we are far more likely to be motivated to reciprocate. Another dialect of affirming words is encouraging words. The word encourage means " to inspire courage". All of us have areas in which we feel insecure. That insecurity hinders us from accomplishing the positive things that we would like to do. The latent potential in our areas of insecurity may await someone uttering encouraging words to us. |
| 8 out of 12 | Quality Time | By quality time we mean giving someone your undivided attention. A central aspect of quality time is togetherness. Two people sitting in the same room are in close proximity, but they are not necessarily together. Togetherness has to do with focused attention. When a father is sitting on the floor, rolling a ball to his 2 year old, that brief moment, however long it last, they are together. However, if the father is talking on the phone while he rolls the ball, his attention is diluted. Quality time does not mean that we have to spend our together moments gazing into each other's eyes. The activity in which we are both engaged is incidental. The important thing emotionally is that we are spending focused time with each other The activity is a vehicle that creates the sense of togetherness. The important thing about the father rolling the ball to the 2 year old is not the activity itself, but the emotions that are created between the father and the child. |
| 6 out of 12 | Giving/Receiving Gifts | A gift is something you can hold in your hand. It is not the thought implanted only in the mind that counts, but the thought expressed in actually securing the gift and giving it as the expression of love. You must be thinking of someone to give that person a gift. The gift is a symbol of that thought. It doesn't matter whether it costs money. What is important is that you thought of that person. Gifts are visual symbols of love. Visual symbols of love are more important to some people than others. Because symbols do have emotional value. Gifts come in all sizes, colors and shapes. Some are expensive and others are free. To the individual whose primary love language is receiving gifts, the cost of the gift will matter little, unless it is greatly out of line with what you can afford. |
| 4 out of 12 | Acts of Service | By acts of service, it is meant doing things you know that your friend/spouse would like you to do. You seek to please him/her by serving them. Such actions include washing dishes, taking out the garbage, changing the baby's diaper, raking the leaves, walking the dog, vacuuming the carpet, etc. These activities require thought, planning, energy and effort. If done with a positive spirit, they are indeed expressions of love. Sometimes you may make requests for acts of service to be carried out. Requests can give direction to love, but demands can stop the flow of love. You can give guidance to love by making requests: "I wish you could wash the care, mow the grass, change the baby's diaper", etc. But remember that you cannot create the will to love. Each of us must decide daily to love or not to love. If we choose to love, then expressing it in the way in which our friend/spouse requests will make our love most effective emotionally. |
| 6 out of 12 | Physical Touch | We have long known that physical touch is a way of communicating emotional love. Numerous research projects in the area of child development have made that conclusion: Babies that are held, hugged and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact. The importance of touching children is not a modern idea. The first century, the Hebrews living in Palestine, recognizing Jesus as the great teacher, brought their children to Him "to have him touch them." Wise parents in any culture are touching parents. Physical touch can make or break a relationship. It can communicate love or hate. A slap in the face is detrimental to any child but it is devastating to a child whose primary love language is touch. A tender hug communicates love to any child, but it shouts love to the child whose primary love language is physical touch. The same is true for adults. Physical touch is also a powerful vehicle for communicating marital love. Holding hands, kissing, embracing are all ways of communicating emotional love to one's spouse. For those whose primary love language is physical touch, without it they feel unloved. With it, their emotional tank is filled and they feel secure in the love of their spouse. |
Application: The purpose of knowing your love language is to be a better communicator. Knowing what your primary love language is can help those around you show you love in a way that you understand. For example, if your wife's love language is acts of service, show her you love her by doing the dishes, rather than buy her flowers.
ACtually... it's a composite of almost all..
well.. I have to go START studying for my AIMS paper.. (ahha... two papers... in less than 8 hours time... )
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