Communicating with a person of differing wavelength (i.e. ability to comprehend and grasp concepts) - achievable only when you go down to the lower level. And it is frustrating to do that when you desire an intellectual conversation, and not baby talk. (and maturity is not positively correlated to the no of years residing on earth.)
heard a comment quite recently that sounds so familiar, to a certain extent, arrowhead pointing. Here it goes:-
A has communication problem with B - cuz due to differences in personality. A feels that he (i.e A) oughta be BIG hearted, and try to embrace B with love. Question : If A who started the whole hoo-ha and feels that B is being narrow-minded by distancing himself from A, is A still being BIG hearted? And A has the audacity to indirectly point out that B is being narrow-minded/ or closed up not to treat him as if nothing has happen, when A did not even apologize. B may not be entirely right to keep distance from A but it's definitely unlikely for things to juz vanish suddenly and as if nothing has happen.
The misunderstandings did not stemmed from personalty differences, since A did not examine what words he has used that result in the semi-alienating defense put up by B. but then again, from the way A put it, A didn't think he was in the wrong. The problem to him was personality clashes. If you were B, how would you feel?
Perhaps A has not heard of the following phrases - "Once bitten, twice shy." Or "Do not cast pearls to swine." And evidently, it is not an issue of personalities, but rather, an issue of ability to understand - i.e.a maturity issue. Asking a toddler if his bladder is full would invite a curious stare from a toddler, and risk the toddler peeing before reaching the loo - since he don't comprehend the question. But asking the toddler if he wanna weewee will save the day. - It's not a matter of personality but maturity.
And it's ridiculous for adults to converse with each other in baby talk. Hence, the normal reaction is to save yourself the headache and rest your vocal chords. Else, it would just breed frustration and miscommunication, simply because the of-age adult cannot understand.
oh yeah, B totally get the point A is making. Just that, it is not personality dude. it's maturity.
If you wanna tune in to Class95, you will not switch your radio to AM frequency, but to FM instead right?So if you can't find the station you wanted and realised that the radio is stuck at AM mode, what'll you do? Unless you like the this:
i.e. white noise, a normal person will switch off the radio receiver . So that's a natural reflex!
Having said and done, I reckon B will just simply make fair weather talk to A for the time being, since A has such a big heart. And no, it's not a personality issue.
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